There aren’t really words to express the sadness and shock when hearing of this news. Fortunately I’ve not personally read any postings from the sites of those who’ve condoned Ricky’s actions, and who’ve supported him. I’ve only heard of them, and quite frankly it abhors me! I leave them—and him—in God’s capable hands.

I met Angela about 6 years ago when she visited our center, and she was, in my opinion, a wonderful, caring, fun-loving, personable woman. I didn’t know her well, but in the times I was able to talk to her, I felt comfortable and at ease, despite the age gap of at least 25 years.

I was born and raised in “The Family” all 23 years of my life. I am amazed at how some certain individuals claim to speak with such “knowledge” and in broad, negative sweeping statements of “the abusive upbringing those in the second generation have experienced”. There are 2 sides to every story, many different perspectives and angles to view from, so I only think it’s fair to say mine. I was not abused! I was not and am not brain-washed!

To the contrary, I was brought up by loving, Godly parents and teachers who gave up their personal time, independence and freedom to teach me, care for me, protect me from harmful, degrading influences and raise me “in the nurture and admonition of the Lord”.

As a recent mother of 2 children (my little son being born only 3 days after this tragic event), I am convinced that “The Family” is the safest, most loving, harmless, abuse-free environment to raise them. My children will have—as all Family children are given—the privilege of growing up in a peaceful, nurturing environment that is free of violence, drugs, and many other forms of substance abuse which children in society at large are confronted with.

More than two-thirds of my friends have left over the years, and we continue to have close friendships and contact with one another. They all consider their time growing up in “The Family” to have been the best years of their lives and wouldn’t trade their childhood memories and experiences for anything.

I sincerely respect and admire those who’ve chosen to leave and happily carry on with their lives, just as I would expect the same from them.

Pandita Maher (23) is a second generation member of the Family International, currently residing in South East Asia.